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Black is the most relevant to our
discussion of Aristotle's treatment of gender, especially where I have added
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CHAPTER I
The object of this Essay is
to explain as clearly as I am able grounds of an opinion which I have held from
the very earliest period when I had formed any opinions at all on social
political matters, and which, instead of being weakened or modified, has been
constantly growing stronger by the progress reflection and the experience of
life. That the principle which regulates the existing social relations between
the two sexes--the legal subordination of one sex to the other--is wrong itself,
and now one of the chief hindrances to human improvement; and that it ought to
be replaced by a principle of perfect equality, admitting no power or privilege
on the one side, nor disability on the other.
The very words necessary to express the task I have undertaken, show how arduous
it is. But it would be a mistake to suppose that the difficulty of the case must
lie in the insufficiency or obscurity of the grounds of reason on which my
convictions. The difficulty is that which exists in all cases in which there is
a mass of feeling to be contended against. So long as opinion is strongly rooted
in the feelings, it gains rather than loses instability by having a
preponderating weight of argument against it. For if it were accepted as a
result of argument, the refutation of the argument might shake the solidity of
the conviction; but when it rests solely on feeling, worse it fares in
argumentative contest, the more persuaded adherents are that their feeling must
have some deeper ground, which the arguments do not reach; and while the feeling
remains, it is always throwing up fresh intrenchments of argument to repair any
breach made in the old. And there are so many causes tending to make the
feelings connected with this subject the most intense and most deeply-rooted of
those which gather round and protect old institutions and custom, that we need
not wonder to find them as yet less undermined and loosened than any of the rest
by the progress the great modern spiritual and social transition; nor suppose
that the barbarisms to which men cling longest must be less barbarisms than
those which they earlier shake off.
In every respect the burden is hard on those who attack an almost universal
opinion. They must be very fortunate well as unusually capable if they obtain a
hearing at all. They have more difficulty in obtaining a trial, than any other
litigants have in getting a verdict. If they do extort a hearing, they are
subjected to a set of logical requirements totally different from those exacted
from other people. In all other cases, burthen of proof is supposed to lie with
the affirmative. If a person is charged with a murder, it rests with those who
accuse him to give proof of his guilt, not with himself to prove his innocence.
If there is a difference of opinion about the reality of an alleged historical
event, in which the feelings of men general are not much interested, as the
Siege of Troy example, those who maintain that the event took place expected to
produce their proofs, before those who take the other side can be required to
say anything; and at no time these required to do more than show that the
evidence produced by the others is of no value. Again, in practical matters, the
burthen of proof is supposed to be with those who are against liberty; who
contend for any restriction or prohibition either any limitation of the general
freedom of human action or any disqualification or disparity of privilege
affecting one person or kind of persons, as compared with others. The
a priori presumption is in favour of freedom and impartiality. It
is held that there should be no restraint not required by I general good, and
that the law should be no respecter of persons but should treat all alike, save
where dissimilarity of treatment is required by positive reasons, either of
justice or of policy. But of none of
these rules of evidence will the benefit be allowed to those who maintain the
opinion I profess. It is
useless me to say that those who maintain the doctrine that men ha a right to
command and women are under an obligation obey, or that men are fit for
government and women unfit, on the affirmative side of the question, and that
they are bound to show positive evidence for the assertions, or submit to their
rejection. It is equally unavailing for me to say that those who deny to women
any freedom or privilege rightly allow to men, having the double presumption
against them that they are opposing freedom and recommending partiality, must
held to the strictest proof of their case, and unless their success be such as
to exclude all doubt, the judgment ought to against them. These would be thought
good pleas in any common case; but they will not be thought so in this instance.
Before I could hope to make any impression, I should be expected not only to
answer all that has ever been said bye who take the other side of the question,
but to imagine that could be said by them--to find them in reasons, as I as
answer all I find: and besides refuting all arguments for the affirmative, I
shall be called upon for invincible positive arguments to prove a negative. And
even if I could do all and leave the opposite party with a host of unanswered
arguments against them, and not a single unrefuted one on side, I should be
thought to have done little; for a cause supported on the one hand by universal
usage, and on the r by so great a preponderance of popular sentiment, is
supposed to have a presumption in its favour, superior to any conviction which
an appeal to reason has power to produce in intellects but those of a high
class.
I do not mention these difficulties to complain of them; first, use it would be
useless; they are inseparable from having to contend through people's
understandings against the hostility their feelings and practical tendencies:
and truly the understandings of the majority of mankind would need to be much
better cultivated than has ever yet been the case, before they be asked to place
such reliance in their own power of estimating arguments, as to give up
practical principles in which have been born and bred and which are the basis of
much existing order of the world, at the first argumentative attack which they
are not capable of logically resisting. I do not therefore quarrel with them for
having too little faith in argument, but for having too much faith in custom and
the general feeling. It is one of the characteristic prejudices of the ion of
the nineteenth century against the eighteenth, to d to the unreasoning elements
in human nature the infallibility which the eighteenth century is supposed to
have ascribed to the reasoning elements. For
the apotheosis of Reason we have substituted that of Instinct; and we call thing
instinct which we find in ourselves and for which we cannot trace any rational
foundation. This
idolatry, infinitely more degrading than the other, and the most pernicious e
false worships of the present day, of all of which it is the main support, will
probably hold its ground until it way before a sound psychology laying bare the
real root of much that is bowed down to as the intention of Nature and ordinance
of God. As regards the present question, I am going to accept the unfavourable
conditions which the prejudice assigns to me. I consent that established custom,
and the general feelings, should be deemed conclusive against me, unless that
custom and feeling from age to age can be shown to have owed their existence to
other causes than their soundness, and to have derived their power from the
worse rather than the better parts of human nature. I am willing that judgment
should go against me, unless I can show that my judge has been tampered with.
The concession is not so great as it might appear; for to prove this, is by far
the easiest portion of my task.
The generality of a practice is in some
cases a strong presumption that it is, or at all events once was, conducive to
laudable ends. This is the case, when the practice was first adopted, or
afterwards kept up, as a means to such ends, and was grounded on experience of
the mode in which they could be most effectually attained. If the authority of
men over women, when first established, had been the result of a conscientious
comparison between different modes of constituting the government of society;
if, after trying various other modes of social organisation--the government of
women over men, equality between the two, and such mixed and divided modes of
government as might be invented--it had been decided, on the testimony of
experience, that the mode in which women are wholly under the rule of men,
having no share at all in public concerns, and each in private being under the
legal obligation of obedience to the man with whom she has associated her
destiny, was the arrangement most conducive to the happiness and well-being of
both; its general adoption might then be fairly thought to be some evidence
that, at the time when it was adopted, it was the best:
though even then the considerations which recommended it may, like so many other
primeval social facts of the greatest importance, have subsequently, in the
course of ages, ceased to exist. But the state of the case is in every respect
the reverse of this. In the first place, the
opinion in favour of the present system, which entirely subordinates the weaker
sex to the stronger, rests upon theory only; for
there never has been trial made of any other: so that experience, in the sense
in which it is vulgarly opposed to theory, cannot be pretended to have
pronounced any verdict. And in the second place, the
adoption of this system of inequality never was the result of deliberation, or
forethought, or any social ideas, or any notion whatever of what conduced to the
benefit of humanity or the good order of society.
It arose simply from the fact that from the very earliest twilight of human
society, every woman owing to the value attached to her by men, combined with
her inferiority in muscular strength) was found in a state of bondage to some
man. Laws and systems of polity always begin by recognising the relations they
find already existing between individuals. They convert what was a mere physical
fact into a legal right, give it the sanction of society, and principally aim at
the substitution of public and organised means of asserting and protecting these
rights, instead of the irregular and lawless conflict of physical strength.
Those who had already been compelled to obedience became in this manner legally
bound to it. Slavery, from be inn a mere affair of force between the master and
the slave, became regularised and a matter of compact among the masters, who,
binding themselves to one another for common protection, guaranteed by their
collective strength the private possessions of each, including his slaves. In
early times, the great majority of the male sex were slaves, as well as the
whole of the female. And many ages elapsed, some of them ages of high
cultivation, before any thinker was bold enough to question the rightfulness,
and the absolute social necessity, either of the one slavery or of the other. By
degrees such thinkers did arise; and (the general progress of society assisting)
the slavery of the male sex has, in all the countries of Christian Europe at
least (though, in one of them, only within the last few years) been at length
abolished, and that of the female sex has been gradually changed into a milder
form of dependence. But this dependence, as it exists at present, is not an
original institution, taking a fresh start from considerations of justice and
social expediency--it is the primitive state of slavery lasting on, through
successive mitigations and modifications occasioned by the same causes which
have softened the general manners, and brought all human relations more under
the control of justice and the influence of humanity. It
has not lost the taint of its brutal origin. No presumption in its favour,
therefore, can be drawn from the fact of its existence. The only such
presumption which it could be supposed to have, must be grounded on its having
lasted till now, when so many other things which came down from the same odious
source have been done away with.
And this, indeed, is what makes it strange to ordinary ears, to hear it asserted
that the inequality of rights between men and women has no other source than the
law of the strongest.
That this statement should
have the effect of a paradox, is in some respects creditable to the progress of
civilisation, and the improvement of the moral sentiments of mankind.
We
now live--that is to say,
one or two of the most advanced nations of the world now live--in
a state in which the law of the strongest seems to be entirely abandoned as the
regulating principle of the world's affairs: nobody professes it, and, as
regards most of the relations between human beings, nobody is permitted to
practise it. When anyone
succeeds in doing so, it is under cover of some pretext which gives him the
semblance of having some general social interest on his side. This being the
ostensible state of things, people flatter themselves that the rule of mere
force is ended; that the law of the strongest cannot be the reason of existence
of anything which has remained in full operation down to the present time.
However any of our present institutions may have begun, it can only, they think,
have been preserved to this period of advanced civilisation by a well-grounded
feeling of its adaptation to human nature, and conduciveness to the general
good. They do not understand the great vitality and durability of institutions
which place right on the side of might; how intensely they are clung to; how the
good as well as the bad propensities and sentiments of those who have power in
their hands, become identified with retaining it; how slowly these bad
institutions give way, one at a time, the weakest first. beginning with those
which are least interwoven with the daily habits of life;and how very rarely
those who have obtained legal power because they first had physical, have ever
lost their hold of it until the physical power had passed over to the other
side. Such shifting of the physical force not having taken place in the case of
women; this fact, combined with all the peculiar and characteristic features of
the particular case, made it certain from the first that this branch of the
system of right founded on might, though softened in its most atrocious features
at an earlier period than several of the others, would be the very last to
disappear. It was inevitable that this one case of a social relation grounded on
force, would survive through generations of institutions grounded on equal
justice, an almost solitary exception to the general character of their laws and
customs; but which, so long as it does not proclaim its own origin, and as
discussion has not brought out its true character, is not felt to jar with
modern civilisation, any more than domestic slavery among the Greeks jarred with
their notion of themselves as a free people.
The truth is, that people of
the present and the last two or three generations have lost all practical sense
of the primitive condition of humanity; and only the few who have studied
history accurately, or have much frequented the parts of the world occupied by
the living representatives of ages long past, are able to form any mental
picture of what society then was. People are not aware how entirely, informer
ages, the law of superior strength was the rule of life; how publicly and openly
it was avowed, I do not say cynically or shamelessly--for these words imply a
feeling that there was something in it to be ashamed of, and no such notion
could find a place in the faculties of any person in those ages, except a
philosopher or a saint. History gives a cruel experience of human nature, in
showing how exactly the regard due to the life, possessions, and entire earthly
happiness of any class of persons, was measured by what they had the power of
enforcing; how all who made any resistance to authorities that had arms in their
hands, however dreadful might be the provocation, had not only the law of force
but all other laws, and all the notions of social obligation against them; and
in the eyes of those whom they resisted, were not only guilty of crime, but of
the worst of all crimes, deserving the most cruel chastisement which human
beings could inflict. The first small vestige of a feeling of obligation in a
superior to acknowledge any right in inferiors, began when he had been induced,
for convenience, to make some promise to them. Though these promises, even when
sanctioned by the most solemn oaths, were for many ages revoked or violated on
the most trifling provocation or temptation, it is probably that this, except by
persons of still worse than the average morality, was seldom done without some
twinges of conscience. The ancient republics, being mostly grounded from the
first upon some kind of mutual con;pact, or at any rate formed by an union of
persons not very unequal in strength, afforded, in consequence, the first
instance of a portion of human relations fenced round, and placed under the
dominion of another law than that of force. And though the original law of force
remained in full operation between them and their slaves, and also (except so
far as limited by express compact) between a commonwealth and its subjects, or
other independent commonwealths; the banishment of that primitive law even from
so narrow a field, commenced the regeneration of human nature, by giving birth
to sentiments of which experience soon demonstrated the immense value even for
material interests, and which thence forward only required to be enlarged, not
created. Though slaves were no part of the commonwealth, it was in the free
states that slaves were first felt to have rights as human beings. The Stoics
were, I believe, the first (except so far as the Jewish law constitutes an
exception) who taught as a part of morality that men were bound by moral
obligations to their slaves. No one, after Christianity became ascendant, could
ever again have been a stranger to this belief, in theory; nor, after the rise
of the Catholic Church, was it ever without persons to stand up for it. Yet to
enforce it was the most arduous task which Christianity ever had to perform. For
more thana thousand years the Church kept up the contest, with hardly any
perceptible success. It was not for want of power over men's minds. Its power
was prodigious. It could make kings and nobles resign their most valued
possessions to enrich the Church. It could make thousands in the prime of life
and the height of worldly advantages, shut themselves up in convents to work out
their salvation by poverty, fasting, and prayer. It could send hundreds of
thousands across land and sea, Europe and Asia, to give their lives for the
deliverance of the Holy Sepulchre. It could make kings relinquish wives who were
the object of their passionate attachment, because the Church declared that they
were within the seventh (by our calculation the fourteenth) degree of
relationship. All this it did; but it could not make men fight less with one
another, nor tyrannise less cruelly over the serfs, and when they were able,
over burgesses. It could not make them renounce either of the applications of
force; force militant, or force triumphant. This they could never be induced to
do until they were themselves in their turn compelled by superior force. Only by
the growing power of kings was an end put to fighting except between kings, or
competitors for kingship; only by the growth of a wealthy and warlike
bourgeoisie in the fortified towns, and of a plebeian infantry which proved more
powerful in the field than the undisciplined chivalry, was the insolent tyranny
of the nobles over the bourgeoisie and peasantry brought within some bounds. It
was persisted in not only until, but long after, the oppressed had obtained a
power enabling them often to take conspicuous vengeance; and on the Continent
much of it continued to the time of the French Revolution, though in England the
earlier and better organisation of the democratic classes put an end to it
sooner, by establishing equal laws and free national institutions.
If people are mostly so
little aware how completely, during the greater part of the duration of our
species, the law of force was the avowed rule of general conduct, any other
being only a special and exceptional consequence of peculiar ties---and from how
very recent a date it is that the affairs of society in general have been even
pretended to be regulated according to any moral law; as little do people
remember or consider, how institutions and customs which never had any ground
but the law of force, last on into ages and states of general opinion which
never would have permitted their first establishment. Less than forty years ago,
Englishmen might still by law hold human beings in bondage as saleable property:
within the present century they might kidnap them and carry them off, and work
them literally to death. This absolutely extreme case of the law of force,
condemned by those who can tolerate almost every other form of arbitrary power,
and which, of all others presents features the most revolting to the feelings of
all who look at it from an impartial position, was the law of civilised and
Christian England within the memory of persons now living: and in one half of
Anglo-Saxon America three or four years ago, not only did slavery exist, but the
slave-trade, and the breeding of slaves expressly for it, was a general practice
between slave states. Yet not only was there a greater strength of sentiment
against it, but, in England at least, a less amount either of feeling or of
interest in favour of it, than of any other of the customary abuses of force:
for its motive was the love of gain, unmixed and undisguised; and those who
profited by it were a very small numerical fraction of the country, while the
natural feeling of all who were not personally interested in it, was unmitigated
abhorrence. So extreme an instance makes it almost superfluous to refer to any
other: but consider the long duration of absolute monarchy. In England at
present it is the almost universal conviction that military despotism is a case
of the law of force, having no other origin or justification. Yet in all the
great nations of Europe except England it either still exists, or has only just
ceased to exist, and has even now a strong party favourable to it in all ranks
of the people, especially among persons of station and consequence. Such is the
power of an established system, even when far from universal; when not only in
almost every period of history there have been great and well-known examples of
the contrary system, but these have almost invariably been afforded by the most
illustrious and most prosperous communities.
In this case, too, the possessor of the
undue power, the person directly interested in it, is only one person, while
those who are subject to it and suffer from it are literally all the rest. The
yoke is naturally and necessarily humiliating to all persons, except the one who
is on the throne, together with, at most, the one who expects to succeed to it.
How different are these cases from that of the power of men over women! I am not
now prejudging the question-of its justifiableness. I am showing how vastly more
permanent it could not but be, even if not justifiable, than these other
dominations which have nevertheless lasted down to our own time. Whatever
gratification of pride there is in the possession of power, and whatever
personal interest in its exercise, is in this case not confined to a limited
class, but common to the whole male sex. Instead of being, to most of its
supporters) a thing desirable chiefly in the abstract, or, like the political
ends usually contended for by factions, of little private importance to any but
the leaders; it comes home to the person and hearth of every male head of a
family, and of everyone who looks forward to being so. The clodhopper exercises,
oris to exercise, his share of the power equally with the highest nobleman. And
the case is that in which the desire of power is the strongest: for everyone who
desires power, desires it most over those who are nearest to him, with whom his
life is passed, with whom he has most concerns in common and in whom any
independence of his authority is oftenest likely to interfere with his
individual preferences. If, in the other cases specified, powers manifestly
grounded only on force, and having so much less to support them, are so slowly
and with so much difficulty got rid of, much more must it be so with this, even
if it rests on no better foundation than those. We must consider, too, that the
possessors of the power have facilities in this case, greater than in any other,
to prevent any uprising against it. Every one of the subjects lives under the
very eye, and almost, it may be said, in the hands, of one of the masters in
closer intimacy with him than with any of her fellow-subjects; with no means of
combining against him, no power of even locally over mastering him, and, on the
other hand, with the strongest motives for seeking his favour and avoiding to
give him offence. In struggles for political emancipation, everybody knows how
often its champions are bought off by bribes, or daunted by terrors. In the case
of women, each individual of the subject-class is in a chronic state of bribery
and intimidation combined. In setting up the standard of resistance, a large
number of the leaders, and still more of the followers, must make an almost
complete sacrifice of the pleasures or the alleviations of their own individual
lot. If ever any system of privilege and enforced subjection had its yoke
tightly riveted on the those who are kept down by it, this has. I
have not yet shown that it is a wrong system: but everyone who is capable of
thinking on the subject must see that even if it is, it was certain to outlast
all other forms of unjust authority. And when some of the grossest of the other
forms still exist in many civilised countries, and have only recently been got
rid of in others, it would be strange if that which is so much the deepest
rooted had yet been perceptibly shaken anywhere. There is more reason to wonder
that the protests and testimonies against it should have been so numerous and so
weighty as they are.
Some will object, that a
comparison cannot fairly be made between the government of the male sex and the
forms of unjust power which I have adduced in illustration of it, since these
are arbitrary, and the effect of mere usurpation, while it on the contrary is
natural. But was there ever any domination which did not appear natural to those
who possessed it? There was a time when the division of mankind into two
classes, a small one of masters and a numerous one of slaves, appeared, even to
the most cultivated minds, to be natural, and the only natural, condition of the
human race. No less an intellect, and one which contributed no less to the
progress of human thought, than Aristotle, held this opinion without doubt or
misgiving; and rested it on the same premises on which the same assertion in
regard to the dominion of men over women is usually based, namely that there are
different natures among mankind, free natures, and slave natures; that the
Greeks were of a free nature, the barbarian races of Thracians and Asiatics of a
slave nature. But why need I go back to Aristotle?
Did not the slave-owners of the Southern United States maintain the same
doctrine, with all the fanaticism with which men ding to the theories that
justify their passions and legitimate their personal interests? Did they not
call heaven and earth to witness that the dominion of the white man over the
black is natural, that the black race is by nature incapable of freedom, and
marked out for slavery? some even going so far as to say that the freedom of
manual labourers is an unnatural order of things anywhere. Again, the theorists
of absolute monarchy have always affirmed it to be the only natural form of
government; issuing from the patriarchal, which was the primitive and
spontaneous form of society, framed on the model of the paternal, which is
anterior to society itself, and, as they contend, the most natural authority of
all. Nay, for that matter, the law of force itself, to those who could not plead
any other has always seemed the most natural of all grounds for the exercise of
authority. Conquering races hold it to be Nature's own dictate that the
conquered should obey the conquerors, or as they euphoniously paraphrase it,
that the feebler and more unwarlike races should submit to the braver and
manlier. The smallest acquaintance with human life in the middle ages, shows how
supremely natural the dominion of the feudal nobility overmen of low condition
appeared to the nobility themselves, and how unnatural the conception seemed, of
a person of the inferior class claiming equality with them, or exercising
authority over them. It hardly seemed less so to the class held in subjection.
The emancipated serfs and burgesses, even in their most vigorous struggles,
never made any pretension to a share of authority; they only demanded more or
less of limitation to the power of tyrannising over them. So true is it that
unnatural generally means only uncustomary, and that everything which is usual
appears natural. The subjection of women to men being a universal custom, any
departure from it quite naturally
appears unnatural. But how entirely, even in this case, the feeling is dependent
on custom, appears by ample experience. Nothing so much astonishes the people of
distant parts of the world, when they first learn anything about England, as to
be told that it is under a queen; the thing seems to them so unnatural as to be
almost incredible. To Englishmen this does not seem in the least degree
unnatural, because they are used to it; but they do feel it unnatural that women
should be soldiers or Members of Parliament. In the feudal ages, on the
contrary, war and politics were not thought unnatural to women, because not
unusual; it seemed natural that women of the privileged classes should be of
manly character, inferior in nothing but bodily strength to their husbands and
fathers. The independence of women seemed rather less unnatural to the Greeks
than to other ancients, on account of the fabulous Amazons (whom they believed
to be historical), and the partial example afforded by the Spartan women; who,
though no less subordinate by law than in other Greek states, were more free in
fact, and being trained to bodily exercises in the same manner with men, gave
ample proof that they were not naturally disqualified for them. There can be
little doubt that Spartan experience suggested to Plato, among many other of his
doctrines, t of the social and political equality of the two sexes.
But, it will be said, the
rule of men over women differs from all these others in not being a rule a rule
of force: it is accepted voluntarily; women make no complaint, and are
consenting parties to it. In the first place, a great number of women do not
accept it. Ever since there have been women able to make their sentiments known
by their writings (the only mode of publicity which society permits to them), an
increasing number of them have recorded protests against their present social
condition: and recently many thousands of them, headed by the most eminent women
known to the public, have petitioned Parliament for their admission to the
Parliamentary Suffrage The claim of women to be educated as solidly, and in the
same branches of knowledge, as men, is urged with growing intensity, and with a
great prospect of success; while the demand for their admission into professions
and occupations hitherto closed against them, becomes every year more urgent.
Though there are not in this country, as there are in the United States,
periodical conventions and an
organised party to
agitate for the Rights of Women, there is a numerous and active society
organised and managed by women, for the more limited object of obtaining the
political franchise. Nor is it only in our own country and in America that women
are beginning to protest, more or less collectively, against the disabilities
under which they labour. France, and Italy, and Switzerland, and Russia now
afford examples of the same thing. How many more women there are who silently
cherish similar aspirations, no one can possibly know; but there are abundant
tokens how many would cherish them, were they not so strenuously taught to
repress them as contrary to the proprieties of their sex. It must be remembered,
also, that no enslaved class ever asked for complete liberty at once. When Simon
de Montfort called the deputies of the commons to sit for the first time in
Parliament, did any of them dream of demanding that an assembly, elected by
their constituents) should make and destroy ministries, and dictate to the king
in affairs of State ? No such thought entered into the imagination of the most
ambitious of them. The nobility had already these pretensions; the commons
pretended to nothing but to be exempt from arbitrary taxation, and from the
gross individual oppression of the king's officers. It is a political law of
nature that those who are under any power of ancient origin, never begin by
complaining of the power itself, but only of its oppressive exercise. There is
never any want of women who complain of ill-usage by their husbands. There would
be infinitely more, if complaint were not the greatest of all provocatives to a
repetition and increase of the ill-usage. It is this which frustrates all
attempts to maintain the power but protect the woman against its abuses. In no
other case (except that of a child) is the person who has been proved judicially
to have suffered an injury, replaced under the physical power of the culprit who
inflicted it. Accordingly wives, even in the most extreme and protracted cases
of bodily ill-usage, hardly ever dare avail themselves of the laws made for
their protection: and if, in a moment of irrepressible indignation, or by the
interference of neighbours, they are induced to do so, their whole effort
afterwards is to disclose as little as they can, and to beg off their tyrant
from his merited chastisement.
All causes, social and
natural, combine to make it unlikely that women should be collectively
rebellious to the power of men. They are so far in a position different from all
other subject classes, that their masters require something more from them than
actual service. Men do not want solely the obedience of women, they want their
sentiments. All men, except the most brutish, desire to have, in the woman most
nearly connected with them, not a forced slave but a willing one, not a slave
merely, but a favourite. They have therefore put everything in practice to
enslave their minds. The masters of all other slaves rely, for maintaining
obedience, on fear; either fear of themselves, or religious fears. The masters
of women wanted more than simple obedience, and they turned the whole force of
education to effect their purpose. All women are brought up from the very
earliest years in the belief that their ideal of character is the very opposite
to that of men; not self will, and government by self-control, but submission,
and yielding to the control of other. All the moralities tell them that it is
the duty of women, and all the current sentimentalities that it is their nature,
to live for others; to make complete abnegation of themselves, and to have no
life but in their affections. And by their affections are meant the only ones
they are allowed to have - - those to the men with whom they are connected, or
to the children who constitute an additional and indefeasible tie between them
and a man. When we put together three
things -- first, the natural attraction between opposite sexes; secondly, the
wife's entire dependence on the husband, every privilege or pleasure she has
being either his gift, or depending entirely on his will; and lastly, that the
principal object of human pursuit, consideration, and all objects of social
ambition, can in general be sought or obtained by her only through him, it would
be a miracle if the object of being attractive to men had not become the polar
star of feminine education and formation of character. And, this great means of
influence over the minds of women having been acquired, an instinct of
selfishness made men avail themselves of it to the utmost as a means of holding
women in subjection, by representing to them meekness, submissiveness, and
resignation of all individual will into the hands of a man, as an essential part
of sexual attractiveness.
Can it be doubted that any of the other yokes which mankind have succeeded in
breaking, would have subsisted till now if the same means had existed, and had
been so sedulously used, to bow down their minds to it? If it had been made the
object of the life of every young plebeian to find personal favour in the eyes
of some patrician, of every young serf with some seigneur; if domestication with
him, and a share of his personal affections, had been held out as the prize
which they all should look out for, the most gifted and aspiring being able to
reckon on the most desirable prizes; and if, when this prize had been obtained,
they had been shut out by a wall of brass from all interests not centring in
him, all feelings and desires but those which he shared or inculcated; would not
serfs and seigneurs, plebeians and patricians, have been as broadly
distinguished at this day as men and women are? and would not all but a thinker
here and there, have believed the distinction to be a fundamental and
unalterable fact in human nature?
The preceding considerations are amply
sufficient to show that custom, however universal it may be, affords in this
case no presumption, and ought not to create any prejudice, in favour of the
arrangements which place women in social and political subjection to men. But
I may go farther, and maintain that the course of history, and the tendencies of
progressive human society, afford not only no presumption in favour of this
system of inequality of rights, but a
strong one against it;
and that, so far as the whole course of human improvement up to the time, the
whole stream of modern tendencies, warrants any inference on the subject, it is,
that this relic of the past is discordant with the future, and must necessarily
disappear.
For, what is
the peculiar character of the modern world-the
difference which chiefly distinguishes modern institutions, modern social ideas,
modern life itself, from those of times
long past? It
is, that human beings are no longer born to their place in life, and chained
down by an inexorable bond to the place they are born to, but are free to employ their faculties, and such
favourable chances as offer, to achieve the lot which may appear to them most
desirable.
Human society of old was constituted on a very different principle.
All were born to a fixed social position, and were mostly kept in it by law, or
interdicted from any means by which they could emerge from it. As some men are
born white and others black, so some were born slaves and others freemen and
citizens; some were born patricians, others plebeians; some were born feudal
nobles, others commoners and roturiers. A slave or serf could never make himself
free, nor, except by the will of his master, become so.
In most European
countries it was not till towards the close of the middle ages, and as a
consequence of the growth of regal power, that commoners could be ennobled. Even
among nobles, the eldest son was born the exclusive heir to the paternal
possessions, and a long time elapsed before it was fully established that the
father could disinherit him. Among the industrious classes, only those who were
born members of a guild, or were admitted into it by its members, could lawfully
practise their calling within its local limits; and nobody could practise any
calling deemed important, in any but the legal manner--by processes
authoritatively prescribed. Manufacturers have stood in the pillory for
presuming to carry on their business by new and improved methods. In modern
Europe, and most in those parts of it which have participated most largely in
all other modern improvements, diametrically opposite doctrines now prevail. Law
and government do not undertake to prescribe by whom any social or industrial
operation shall or shall not be conducted, or what modes of conducting them
shall be lawful. These things are left to the unfettered choice of individuals.
Even the laws which required that workmen should serve an apprenticeship, have
in this country been repealed: there being ample assurance that in all cases in
which an apprenticeship is necessary, its necessity will suffice to enforce it.
The old theory was, that the least possible should be left to the choice of the
individual agent; that all he had to do should, as far as practicable, be laid
down for him by superior wisdom. Left to himself he was sure to go wrong. The
modern conviction, the fruit of a thousand years of experience, is, that things
in which the individual is the person directly interested, never go right but as
they are left to his own discretion; and that any regulation of them by
authority, except to protect the rights of others, is sure to be mischievous.
This conclusion slowly arrived at, and not adopted until almost every possible
application of the contrary theory had been made with disastrous result, now (in
the industrial department) prevails universally in the most advanced countries,
almost universally in all that have pretensions to any sort of advancement. It
is not that all processes are supposed to be equally good, or all persons to be
equally qualified for everything; but that freedom of individual choice is now
known to be the only thing which procures the adoption of the best processes,
and throws each operation into the hands of those who are best qualified for it.
Nobody thinks it necessary to make a law that only a strong-armed man shall be a
blacksmith. Freedom and competition suffice to make blacksmiths strong-armed
men, because the weak armed can earn more by engaging in occupations for which
they are more fit. In consonance with this doctrine, it is felt to be an
overstepping of the proper bounds of authority to fix beforehand, on some
general presumption, that certain persons are not fit to do certain things. It
is now thoroughly known and admitted that if some such presumptions exist, no
such presumption is infallible. Even if it be well grounded in a majority of
cases, which it is very likely not to be, there will be a minority of
exceptional cases in which it does not hold: and in those it is both an
injustice to the individuals, and a detriment to society, to place barriers in
the way of their using their faculties for their own benefit and for that of
others. In the cases, on the other hand, in which the unfitness is real, the
ordinary motives of human conduct will on the whole suffice to prevent the
incompetent person from making, or from persisting in, the attempt.
If this general principle of
social and economical science is not true; if individuals, with such help as
they can derive from the opinion of those who know them, are not better judges
than the law and the government, of their own capacities and vocation; the world
cannot too soon abandon this principle, and return to the old system of
regulations and disabilities. But if the principle is true, we ought to act as
if we believed it, and not to ordain that to be born a girl instead of a boy,
any more than to be born black instead of white, or a commoner instead of a
nobleman, shall decide the person's position through all life--shall interdict
people from all the more elevated social positions, and from all, except a few,
respectable occupations. Even were we to admit the utmost that is ever pretended
a to the superior fitness of men for all the functions now reserve to them, the
same argument applies which forbids a legal qualification for Members of
Parliament. If only once in a dozen years the conditions of eligibility exclude
a fit person, there is a real loss, while the exclusion of thousands of unfit
persons is no gain; for if the constitution of the electoral body disposes them
to choose unfit persons, there are always plenty of such persons to choose from.
In all things of any difficulty and importance, those who can do them well are
fewer than the need, even with the most unrestricted latitude of choice: and any
limitation of the field of selection deprives society of some chances of being
served by the competent, without ever saving it from the incompetent.
At present, in the more
improved countries, the disabilities of women are the only case, save one, in
which laws and institutions take persons at their birth, and ordain that they
shall never in all their lives be allowed to compete for certain things. The one
exception is that of royalty. Persons still are born to the throne; no one, not
of the reigning family, can ever occupy it, and no one even of that family can,
by any means but the course of hereditary succession, attain it. All other
dignities and social advantages are open to the whole male sex: many indeed are
only attainable by wealth, but wealth may be striven for by anyone, and is
actually obtained by many men of the very humblest origin. The difficulties, to
the majority, are indeed insuperable without the aid of fortunate accidents; but
no male human being is under any legal ban: neither law nor opinion superadd
artificial obstacles to the natural ones. Royalty, as I have said, is excepted:
but in this case everyone feels it to be an exception--an anomaly in the modern
world, in marked opposition to its customs and principles, and to be justified
only by extraordinary special expediences, which, though individuals and nations
differ in estimating their weight, unquestionably do in fact exist. But in this
exceptional case, in which a high social function is, for important reasons,
bestowed on birth instead of being put up to competition, all free nations
contrive to adhere in substance to the principle from which they nominally
derogate; for they circumscribe this high function by conditions avowedly
intended to prevent the person to whom it ostensibly belongs from really
performing it; while the person by whom it is performed, the responsible
minister, does obtain the post by a competition from which no full-grown citizen
of the male sex is legally excluded. The disabilities, therefore, to which women
are subject from the mere fact of their birth, are the solitary examples of the
kind in modern legislation. In no instance except this, which comprehends half
the human race, are the higher social functions closed against anyone by a
fatality of birth which no exertions, and no change of circumstances, can
overcome; for even religious disabilities (besides that in England and in Europe
they have practically almost ceased to exist) do not close any career to the
disqualified person in case of conversion.
The social subordination of
women thus stands out an isolated fact in modern social institutions; a solitary
breach of what has become their fundamental law; a single relic of an old world
of thought and practice exploded in everything else, but retained in the one
thing of most universal interest; as if a gigantic dolmen, or a vast temple of
Jupiter Olympius, occupied the site of St. Paul's and received daily worship,
while the surrounding Christian churches were only resorted to on fasts and
festivals.
This entire discrepancy between one social fact and all those which
accompany it, and the radical opposition between its nature and the progressive
movement which is the boast of the modern world, and which has successively
swept away everything else of an analogous character, surely affords, to a
conscientious observer of human tendencies, serious matter for reflection. It
raises a
prima facie
presumption on the unfavourable side, far outweighing any
which custom and usage could in such circumstances create on the favourable; and
should at least suffice to make this, like the choice between republicanism and
royalty, a balanced question.
The least that can be
demanded is, that the question should not be considered as prejudged by existing
fact and existing opinion,
but open to discussion on its merits, as a question
of justice and expediency:
the decision on this, as on any of the other social
arrangements of mankind, depending on what an enlightened estimate of tendencies
and consequences may show to be most advantageous to humanity in general,
without distinction of sex. And the discussion must be a real discussion,
descending to foundations, and not resting satisfied with vague and general
assertions. It will not do, for instance to assert in general terms, that the
experience of mankind has pronounced in favour of the existing system.
Experience cannot possibly have decided between two courses, so long as there
has only been experience of one.
If it be said that the doctrine of the equality
of the sexes rests only on theory, it must be remembered that the contrary
doctrine also has only theory to rest upon. All that is proved in its favour by
direct experience, is that mankind have been able to exist under it, and to
attain the degree of improvement and prosperity which we now see; but whether
that prosperity has been attained sooner, or is now greater, than it would have
been under the other system, experience does not say. on the other hand,
experience does say, that every step in improvement has been so invariably
accompanied by a step made in raising the social position of women, that
historians and philosophers have been led to adopt their elevation or debasement
as on the whole the surest test and most correct measure of the civilisation of
a people or an age. Through all the progressive period of human history, the
condition of women has been approaching nearer to equality with men. This does
not of itself prove that the assimilation must goon to complete equality; but it
assuredly affords some presumption that such is the case.
Neither does it avail
anything to say that the nature of the two sexes adapts them to their present
functions and position, and renders these appropriate to them. Standing on the
ground of common sense and the constitution of the human mind,
I deny that
anyone knows, or can know, the nature of the two sexes, as long as they have
only been seen in their present relation to one another. If men had ever been
found in society without women, or women without men, or if there had been a
society of men and women in which the women were not under the control of the
men, something might have been positively known about the mental and moral
differences which may be inherent in the nature of each.
What is now called the
nature of women is an eminently artificial thing--the result of forced
repression in some directions, unnatural stimulation in others.
It may be
asserted without scruple, that no other class of dependents have had their
character so entirely distorted from its natural proportions by their relation
with their masters; for, if conquered and slave races have been, in some
respects, more forcibly repressed, whatever in them has not been crushed down by
an iron heel has generally been let alone, and if left with any liberty of
development, it has developed itself according to its own laws; but in the case
of women, a hot-house and stove cultivation has always been carried on of some
of the capabilities of their nature, for the benefit and pleasure of their
masters Then, because certain products of the general vital force sprout
luxuriantly and reach a great development in this heated atmosphere and under
this active nurture and watering, while other shoots from the same root, which
are left outside in the wintry air, with ice purposely heaped all round them,
have a stunted growth, and some are burnt off with fire and disappear; men, with
that inability to recognise their own work which distinguishes the unanalytic
mind, indolently believe that the tree grows of itself in the way they have made
it grow, and that it would die if one half of it were not kept in a vapour bath
and the other half in the snow.
Of all difficulties which
impede the progress of thought, and the formation of well-grounded opinions on
life and social arrangements, the greatest is now the unspeakable ignorance and
inattention of mankind in respect to the influences which form human character.
Whatever any portion of the human species now are, or seem to be, such, it is
supposed, they have a natural tendency to be: even when the most elementary
knowledge of the circumstances in which they have been placed, clearly points
out the causes that made them what they are. Because a cottier deeply in arrears
to his landlord is not industrious, there are people who think that the Irish
are naturally idle. Because constitutions can be overthrown when the authorities
appointed to execute them turn their arms against them, there are people who
think the French incapable of free government. Because the Greeks cheated the
Turks, and the Turks only plundered the Greeks, there are persons who think that
the Turks are naturally more sincere: and because women, as is often said, care
nothing about politics except their personalities, it is supposed that the
general good is naturally less interesting to women than to men. History, which
is now so much better understood than formerly, teaches another lesson: if only
by showing the extraordinary susceptibility of human nature to external
influences, and the extreme variableness of those of its manifestations which
are supposed to be most universal and uniform. But in history, as in travelling,
men usually see only what they already had in their own minds; and few learn
much from history, who do not bring much with them to its study.
Hence, in regard to that most
difficult question, what are the natural differences between the two sexes--a
subject on which it is impossible in the present state of society to obtain
complete and correct knowledge--while almost everybody dogmatises upon it,
almost all neglect and make light of the only means by which any partial insight
can be obtained into it. This is, an analytic study of the most important
department of psychology, the laws of the influence of circumstances on
character. For, however great and apparently ineradicable the moral and
intellectual differences between men and women might be, the evidence of there
being natural differences could only be negative. Those only could be inferred
to be natural which could not possibly be artificial--the residuum, after
deducting every characteristic of either sex which can admit of being explained
from education or external circumstances. The profoundest knowledge of the laws
of the formation of character is indispensable to entitle anyone to affirm even
that there is any difference, much more what the difference is, between the two
sexes considered as moral and rational beings; and since no one, as yet, has
that knowledge (for there is hardly any subject which, in proportion to its
importance, has been so little studied), no one is thus far entitled to any
positive opinion on the subject. Conjectures are all that can at present be
made; conjectures more or less probable, according as more or less authorised by
such knowledge as we yet have of the laws of psychology, as applied to the
formation of character.
Even the preliminary
knowledge, what the differences between the sexes now are, apart from all
question as to how they are made what they are, is still in the crudest and
most' incomplete state. Medical practitioners and physiologists have
ascertained, to some extent, the differences in bodily constitution; and this is
an important element to the psychologist: but hardly any medical practitioner
is
a psychologist. Respecting the mental characteristics of women; their
observations are of no more worth than those of common men. It is a subject on
which nothing final can be known, so long as those who alone can really know it,
women themselves, have given but little testimony, and that little, mostly
suborned. It is easy to know stupid women. Stupidity is much the same all the
world over. A stupid person's notions and feelings may confidently be inferred
from those which prevail in the circle by which the person is surrounded. Not so
with those whose opinions and feelings are an emanation from their own nature
and faculties. It is only a man here and there who has any tolerable knowledge
of the character even of the women of his own family. I do not mean, of their
capabilities; these nobody knows, not even themselves, because most of them have
never been called out. I mean their actually existing thoughts and feelings.
Many a man think she perfectly understands women, because he has had amatory
relations with several, perhaps with many of them.
If he is a good observer, and
his experience extends to quality as well as quantity, he may have learnt
something of one narrow department of their nature--an important department, no
doubt. But of all the rest of it, few persons are generally more ignorant,
because there are few from whom it is so carefully hidden. The most favourable
case which a man can generally have for studying the character of a woman, is
that of his own wife: for the opportunities are greater, and the cases of
complete sympathy not so unspeakably rare. And in fact, this is the source from
which any knowledge worth having on the subject has, I believe, generally come.
But most men have not had the opportunity of studying in this way more than a
single case:
accordingly one can, to an almost laughable degree, infer what a
man's wife is like, from his opinions about women in general. To make even this
one case yield any result, the woman must be worth knowing, and the man not only
a competent judge, but of a character so sympathetic in itself, and so well
adapted to hers, that he can either read her mind by sympathetic intuition, or
has nothing in himself which makes her shy of disclosing it, Hardly anything, I
believe, can be more rare than this conjunction. It often happens that there is
the most complete unity of feeling and community of interests as to all external
things, yet the one has as little admission into the internal life of the other
as if they were common acquaintance. Even with true affection, authority on the
one side and subordination on the other prevent perfect confidence. Though
nothing may be intentionally withheld, much is not shown. In the analogous
relation of parent and child, the corresponding phenomenon must have been in the
observation of everyone. As between father and son, how many are the cases in
which the father, in spite of real affection on both sides, obviously to all the
world does not know, nor suspect, parts of the son's character familiar to his
companions and equals. The truth is, that the position of looking up to another
is extremely unpropitious to complete sincerity and openness with him. The fear
of losing ground in his opinion or in his feelings is so strong, that even in an
upright character, there is an unconscious tendency to show only the best side,
or the side which, though not the best, is that which he most likes to see: and
it may be confidently said that thorough knowledge of one another hardly ever
exists, but between persons who, besides being intimates, are equals. How much
more true, then, must all this be, when the one is not only under the authority
of the other, but has it inculcated on her as a duty to reckon everything else
subordinate to his comfort and pleasure, and to let him neither see nor feel
anything coming from her, except what is agreeable to him. All these
difficulties stand in the way of a man's obtaining any thorough knowledge even
of the one woman whom alone, in general, he has sufficient opportunity of
studying. When we further consider that to understand one woman is not
necessarily to understand any other woman; that even if he could study many
women of one rank, or of one country, he would not thereby understand women of
other ranks or countries; and even if he did, they are still only the women of a
single period of history; we may safely assert that the knowledge which men can
acquire of women, even as they have been and are, without reference to what they
might be, is wretchedly imperfect and superficial, and always will be so, until
women themselves have told all that they have to tell.
And this time has not come;
nor will it come otherwise than gradually. It is but of yesterday that women
have either been qualified by literary accomplishments or permitted by society,
to tell anything to the general public. As yet very few of them dare tell
anything, which men, on whom their literary success depends, are unwilling to
hear. Let us remember in what manner, up to a very recent time, the expression,
even by a male author, of uncustomary opinions, or what are deemed eccentric
feelings, usually was, and in some degree still is, received; and we may form
some faint conception under what impediments a woman, who is brought up to think
custom and opinion her sovereign rule, attempts to express in books anything
drawn from the depths of her own nature. The greatest woman who has left
writings behind her sufficient to give her an eminent rank in the literature of
her country, thought it necessary to prefix as a motto to her boldest work,
" Un homme peut braver l'opinion; une femme doit s'y soumettre." [1]
The greater part of what women write about women is mere sycophancy to men. In
the case of unmarried women, much of it seems only intended to increase their
chance of a husband. Many, both married and unmarried, overstep the mark, and
inculcate a servility beyond what is desired or relished by any man, except the
very vulgarest. But this is not so often the L case as, even at a quite late
period, it still was. Literary women I are becoming more free-spoken, and more
willing to express their real sentiments. Unfortunately, in this country
especially, they are themselves such artificial products, that their sentiments
are compounded of a small element of individual observation and consciousness,
and a very large one of acquired associations. This will be less and less the
case, but it will remain true to a great extent, as long as social institutions
do not admit the same free development of originality in women which is possible
to men. When that time comes, and not before, we shall see, and not merely hear,
as much as it is necessary to know of the nature of women, and the adaptation of
other things to it.
I have dwelt so much on the
difficulties which at present obstruct any real knowledge by men of the true
nature of women, because in this as in so many other things "opinio copiae
inter maximas causas inopiae est"; and there is little chance of reasonable
thinking on the matter while people flatter themselves that they perfectly
understand a subject of which most men know absolutely nothing, and of which it
is at present impossible that any man, or all men taken together, should have
knowledge which can qualify them to lay down the law to women as to what is, or
is not, their vocation. Happily, no such knowledge is necessary for any
practical purpose connected with the position of women is relation to society
and life. For, according to all the principles involved in modern society, the
question rests with women themselves--to be decided by their own experience, and
by the use of their own faculties. There are no means of finding what either one
person or many can do, but by trying--and no means by which anyone else can
discover for them what it is for their happiness to do or leave undone.
One thing we may be certain
of--that what is contrary to women's nature to do, they never will be made to do
by simply giving their nature free play. The anxiety of mankind to interfere in
behalf of nature, for fear lest nature should not succeed in effecting its
purpose, is an altogether unnecessary solicitude. What women by nature cannot
do, it is quite superfluous to forbid them from doing. What they can do, but not
so well as the men who are their competitors, competition suffices to exclude
them from; since nobody asks for protective duties and bounties in favour of
women; it is only asked that the present bounties and protective duties in
favour of men should be recalled. If women have a greater natural inclination
for somethings than for others, there is no need of laws or social inculcation
to make the majority of them do the former in preference to the latter. Whatever
women's services are most wanted for, the free play of competition will hold out
the strongest inducements to them to undertake. And, as the words imply, they
are most wanted for the things for which they are most fit; by the apportionment
of which to them, the collective faculties of the two sexes can be applied on
the whole with the greatest sum of valuable result.
The general opinion of men
is supposed to be, that the natural vocation of a woman is that of a wife and
mother. I say, is supposed to be, because, judging from acts--from the whole of
the present constitution of society--one might infer that their opinion was the
direct contrary. They might be supposed to think that the alleged natural
vocation of women was of all things the most repugnant to their nature; insomuch
that if they are free to do anything else--if any other means of living or
occupation of their time and faculties, is open, which has any chance of
appearing desirable to them- there will not be enough of them who will be
willing to accept the condition said to be natural to them. If this is the real
opinion of men in general, it would be well that it should be spoken out. I
should like to hear somebody openly enunciating the doctrine (it is already
implied in much that is written on the subJect)- It is necessary to society that
women should marry and produce children. They will not do so unless they are
compelled. Therefore it is necessary to compel them. " The merits of the
case would then be clearly defined. It would be exactly that of the
slave-holders of South Carolina and Louisiana. " It is necessary that
cotton and sugar should be grown. White men cannot produce them. Negroes will
not, for any wages which we choose to give. Ergo they must be compelled. "
An illustration still closer to the point is that of impressment. Sailors must
absolutely be had to defend the country. It often happens that they will not
voluntarily enlist. Therefore there must be the power of forcing them. How often
has this logic been used!and, but for one flaw in it, without doubt it would
have been successful up to this day. But lt is open to the retort-- First pay
the sailors the honest value of their labour. When you have made it as well
worth their while to serve you, as to work for other employers, you will have no
more difficulty than others have in obtaining their services. To this there is
no logical answer except "I will not": and as people are now not only
ashamed, but are not desirous, to rob the labourer of his hire, impressment is
no longer advocated. Those who attempt to force women into marriage by closing
all other doors against them, lay themselves open to a similar retort. If they
mean what they say, their opinion must evidently be, that men do not render the
married condition so desirable to women, as to induce them to accept it for its
own recommendations. It is not a sign of one's thinking the boon one offers very
attractive, when one allows only Hobson's choice, "that or none. " And
here, I believe, is the clue to the feelings of those men, who have a real
antipathy to the equal freedom of women. I believe they are afraid, not lest
women should be unwilling to marry, for I do not think that anyone in reality
has that apprehension; but lest they should insist that marriage should be on
equal conditions; lest all women of spirit and capacity should prefer doing
almost anything else, not in their own eyes degrading, rather than marry, when
marrying is giving themselves a master, and a master too of all their earthly
possessions. And truly, if this consequence were necessarily incident to
marriage, I think that the apprehension would be very well founded. I agree in
thinking it probable that few women, capable of anything else, would, unless
under an irresistible entrainement, rendering them for the time insensible to
anything but itself, choose such a lot, when any other means were open to them
of filling a conventionally honourable place in life: and if men are determined
that the law of marriage shall be a law of despotism, they are quite right, in
point of mere policy, in leaving to women only Hobson's choice. But, in that
case, all that has been done in the modern world to relax the chain on the minds
of women, has been a mistake. They never should have been allowed to receive a
literary education. Women who read, much more women who write, are, in the
existing constitution of things, a contradiction and a disturbing element: and
it was wrong to bring women up with any acquirements but those of an odalisque,
or of a domestic servant.
NOTE: [1] Title-page of Mme de
Stael's Delphine.
CHAPTER II
It will be well to commence
the detailed discussion of the subject by the particular branch of it to which
the course of our observations has led us: the conditions which the laws of this
and all other countries annex to the marriage contract. Marriage being the
destination appointed by society for women, the prospect they are brought up to,
and the object which it is intended should be sought by all of them, except
those who are too little attractive to be chosen by any man as his companion;
one might have supposed that everything would have been done to make this
condition as eligible to them as possible, that they might have no cause to
regret being denied the option of any other. Society, however, both in this,
and, at first, in all other cases, has preferred to attain its object by foul
rather than fair means: but this is the only case in which it has substantially
persisted in them even to the present day. Originally women were taken by force,
or regularly sold by their father to the husband. Until a late period in
European history, the father had the power to dispose of his daughter in
marriage at his own will and pleasure, without any regard to hers. The Church,
indeed, was so far faithful to a better morality as to require a formal
"yes" from the woman at the marriage ceremony; but there was nothing
to show that the consent was other than compulsory; and it was practically
impossible for the girl to refuse compliance if the father persevered, except
perhaps when she might obtain the protection of religion by a determined
resolution to take monastic vows. After marriage, the man had anciently (but
this was anterior to Christianity) the power of life and death over his wife.
She could invoke no law against him; he was her sole tribunal and law. For a
long time he could repudiate her, but she had no corresponding power in regard
to him. By the old laws of England, the husband was called the lord of the wife;
he was literally regarded as her sovereign, inasmuch that the murder of a man by
his wife was called treason (petty as distinguished from high treason), and was
more cruelly avenged than was usually the case with high treason, for the
penalty was burning to death. Because these various enormities have fallen into
disuse (for most of them were never formally abolished, or not until they had
long ceased to be practised) men suppose that all is now as it should be in
regard to the marriage contract; and we are continually told that civilisation
and Christianity have restored to the woman her just rights. Meanwhile the wife
is the actual bond servant of her husband: no less so, as far as legal
obligation goes, than slaves commonly so called. She vows a livelong obedience
to him at the altar, and is held to it all through her life by law. Casuists may
say that the obligation of obedience stops short of participation in crime, but
it certainly extends to everything else. She can do no act whatever but by his
permission, at least tacit. She can acquire no property but for him; the instant
it becomes hers, even if by inheritance, it becomes ipso facto his. In this
respect the wife's position under the common law of England is worse than
that-of slaves in the laws of many countries: by the Roman law, for example, a
slave might have his peculium, which to a certain extent the law guaranteed to
him for his exclusive use. The higher classes in this country have given an
analogous advantage to their women, through special contracts setting aside the
law, by conditions of pin-money, etc. : since parental feeling being stronger
with fathers than the class feeling of their own sex, a father generally prefers
his own daughter to a son-in-law who is a stranger to him. By means of
settlements, the rich usually contrive to withdraw the whole or part of the
inherited property of the wife from the absolute control of the husband: but
they do not succeed in keeping it under her own control; the utmost they can do
only prevents the husband from squandering it, at the same time debarring the
rightful owner from its use. The property itself is out of the reach of both;
and as to the income derived from it, the form of settlement most favourable to
the wife (that called "to her separate use") only precludes the
husband from receiving it instead of her: it must pass through her hands, but if
he takes it from her by personal violence as soon as she receives it, he can
neither be punished, nor compelled to restitution. This is the amount of the
protection which, under the laws of this country, the most powerful nobleman can
give to his own daughter as respects her husband. In the immense majority of
cases there is no settlement: and the absorption of all rights, all property, as
well as all freedom of action, is complete. The two are called " one person
in law, " for the purpose of inferring that whatever is hers is his, but
the parallel inference is never drawn that whatever is his is hers; the maxim is
not applied against the man, except to make him responsible to third parties for
her acts, as a master is for the acts of his slaves or of his cattle. I am far
from pretending that wives are in general no better treated than slaves; but no
slave is a slave to the same lengths, and in so full a sense of the word, as a
wife is. Hardly any slave, except one immediately attached to the master's
person, is a slave at all hours and all minutes; in general he has, like a
soldier, his fixed task, and when it is done, or when he is off duty, he
disposes, within certain limits, of his own time, and has a family life into
which the master rarely intrudes. "Uncle Tom " under his first master
had his own life in his "cabin, " almost as much as any man whose work
takes him away from home, is able to have in his own family. But it cannot be so
with the wife. Above all, a female slave has (in Christian countries) an
admitted right, and is considered under a moral obligation, to refuse to her
master the last familiarity. Not so the wife: however brutal a tyrant she may
unfortunately be chained to--though she may know that he hates her, though it
may be his daily pleasure to torture her, and though she may feel it impossible
not to loathe him--he can claim from her and enforce the lowest degradation of a
human being, that of being made the instrument of an animal function contrary to
her inclinations. While she is held in this worst description of slavery as to
her own person, what is her position in regard to the children in whom she and
her master have a joint interest? They are by law his children. He alone has any
legal rights over them. Not one act can she do towards or in relation to them,
except by delegation from him. Even after he is dead she is not their legal
guardian, unless he by will has made her so. He could even send them away from
her, and deprive her of the means of seeing or corresponding with them, until
this power was in some degree restricted by Serjeant Talfourd's Act. This is her
legal state. And from this state she has no means of withdrawing herself. If she
leaves her husband, she can take nothing with her, neither her children nor
anything which is rightfully her own. If he chooses, he can compel her to
return, by law, or by physical force; or he may content himself with seizing for
his own use anything which she may earn, or which may be given to her by her
relations. It is only legal separation by a decree of a court of justice, which
entitles her to live apart, without being forced back into the custody of an
exasperated jailer--or which empowers her to apply any earnings to her own use,
without fear that a man whom perhaps she has not seen for twenty years will
pounce upon her some day and carry all off. This legal separation, until lately,
the courts of justice would only give at an expense which made it inaccessible
to anyone out of the higher ranks. Even now it is only given in cases of
desertion, or of the extreme of cruelty; and yet complaints are made every day
that it is granted too easily. Surely, if a woman is denied any lot in life but
that of being the personal body-servant of a despot, and is dependent for
everything upon the chance of finding one who may be disposed to make a
favourite of her instead of merely a drudge, it is a very cruel aggravation of
her fate that she should be allowed to try this chance only once. The natural
sequel and corollary from this state of things would be, that since her all in
life depends upon obtaining a good master, she should be allowed to change again
and again until she finds one. I am not saying that she ought to be allowed this
privilege. That is a totally different consideration. The question of divorce,
in the sense involving liberty of remarriage, is one into which it is foreign to
my purpose to enter. All I now say is, that to those to whom nothing but
servitude is allowed, the free choice of servitude is the only, though a most
insufficient, alleviation. Its refusal completes the assimilation of the wife to
the slave--and the slave under not the mildest form of slavery: for in some
slave codes the slave could, under certain circumstances of ill usage, legally
compel the master to sell him. But no amount of ill usage, without adultery
superadded, will in England free a wife from her tormentor.
I have no desire to
exaggerate, nor does the case stand in any need of exaggeration. I have
described the wife's legal position, not her actual treatment. The laws of most
countries are far worse than the people who execute them, and many of them are
only able to remain laws by being seldom or never carried into effect. If
married life were all that it might be expected to be, looking to the laws
alone, society would be a hell upon earth. Happily there are both feelings and
interests which in many men exclude, and in most, greatly temper, the impulses
and propensities which lead to tyranny: and of those feelings, the tie which
connects a man with his wife affords, in a normal state of things, incomparably
the strongest example. The only tie which at all approaches to it. that between
him and his children, tends, in all save exceptional cases, to strengthen,
instead of conflicting with, the first. Because this is true; because men in
general do not inflict, nor women suffer, all the misery which could be
inflicted and suffered if the full power of tyranny with which the man is
legally invested were acted on; the defenders of the existing form of the
institution think that all its iniquity is justified, and that any complaint is
merely quarrelling with the evil which is the price paid for every great good.
But the mitigations in practice, which are compatible with maintaining in full
legal force this or any other kind of tyranny, instead of being any apology for
despotism, only serve to prove what power human nature possesses of reacting
against the vilest institutions, and with what vitality the seeds of good as
well as those of evil in human character diffuse and propagate themselves. Not a
word can be said for despotism in the family which cannot be said for political
despotism. Every absolute king does not sit at his window to enjoy the groans of
his tortured subjects, nor strips them of their last rag and turns them out to
shiver in the road The despotism of Louis XVI was not the despotism of Philippe
le Bel, or of Nadir Shah, or of Caligula; but it was bad enough to justify the
French Revolution, and to palliate even its horrors. If an appeal be made to the
intense attachments which exist between wives and their husbands, exactly as
much may be said of domestic slavery. It was quite an ordinary fact in Greece
and Rome for slaves to submit to death by torture rather than betray their
masters. In the proscriptions of the Roman civil wars it was remarked that wives
and slaves were heroically faithful, sons very commonly treacherous. Yet we know
how cruelly many Romans treated their slaves. But in truth these intense
individual feelings nowhere rise to such a luxuriant height as under the most
atrocious institutions. It IS part of the irony of life, that the strongest
feelings of devoted gratitude of which human nature seems to be susceptible, are
called forth in human beings towards those who, having the power entirely to
crush their earthly existence, voluntarily refrain from using that power. How
great a place in most men this sentiment fills, even in religious devotion, it
would be cruel to inquire. We daily see how much their gratitude to Heaven
appears to be stimulated by the contemplation of fellow-creatures to whom God
has not been so merciful as he has to themselves.
Whether the institution to be
defended is slavery, political absolutism, or the absolutism of the head of a
family, we are always expected to judge of it from its best instances; and we
are presented with pictures of loving exercise of authority on one side, loving
submission to it on the other--superior wisdom ordering all things for the
greatest good of the dependents, and surrounded by their smiles and
benedictions. All this would be very much to the purpose if anyone pretended
that there are no such things as goodmen. Who doubts that there may be great
goodness, and great happiness, and great affection, under the absolute
government of a good man? Meanwhile, laws and institutions require to be
adapted, not to good men, but to bad. Marriage is not an institution designed
fora select few. Men are not required, as a preliminary to the marriage
ceremony, to prove by testimonials that they are fit to be trusted with the
exercise of absolute power. The tie of affection and obligation to a wife and
children is very strong with those whose general social feelings are strong, and
with many who are little sensible to any other social ties; but there are all
degrees of sensibility and insensibility to it, as there are all grades of
goodness and wickedness in men, down to those whom no ties will bind, and on
whom society has no action but through its ultima ratio, the penalties of the
law. In every grade of this descending scale are men to whom are committed all
the legal powers of a husband. The vilest malefactor has some wretched woman
tied to him, against whom he can commit any atrocity except killing her, and, if
tolerably cautious, can do that without much danger of the legal penalty. And
how many thousands are there among the lowest classes in every country, who,
without being in a legal sense malefactors in any other respect, because in
every other quarter their aggressions meet with resistance, indulge the utmost
habitual excesses of bodily violence towards the unhappy wife, who alone, at
least of grown persons, can neither repel nor escape from their brutality; and
towards whom the excess of dependence inspires their mean and savage natures,
not with a generous forbearance, and a point of honour to behave well to one
whose lot in life is trusted entirely to their kindness, but on the contrary
with a notion that the law has delivered her to them as their thing, to be used
at their pleasure, and that they are not expected to practise the consideration
towards her which is required from them towards everybody else. The law, which
till lately left even these atrocious extremes of domestic oppression
practically unpunished, has within these few years made some feeble attempts to
repress them. But its attempts have done little, and cannot be expected to do
much, because it is contrary to reason and experience to suppose that there can
be any real check to brutality, consistent with leaving the victim still in the
power of the executioner. Until a conviction for personal violence, or at all
events a repetition of it after a first conviction, entitles the woman ipso
facto to a divorce, or at least to a judicial separation, the attempt to repress
these "aggravated assaults " by legal penalties will break down for
want of a prosecutor, or for want of a witness.
When we consider how vast is
the number of men, in any great country, who are little higher than brutes, and
that this never prevents them from being able, through the law of marriage, to
obtain a victim, the breadth and depth of human misery caused in this shape
alone by the abuse of the institution swells to something appalling. Yet these
are only the extreme cases. They are the lowest abysses, but there is a sad
succession of depth after depth before reaching them. In domestic as in
political tyranny, the case of absolute monsters chiefly illustrates the
institution by showing that there is scarcely any horror which may not occur
under it if the despot pleases, and thus setting in a strong light what must be
the terrible frequency of things only a little less atrocious. Absolute fiends
are as rare as angels, perhaps rarer: ferocious savages, with occasional touches
of humanity, are however very frequent: and in the wide interval which separates
these from any worthy representatives of the human species, how many are the
forms and gradations of animalism and selfishness, often under an outward
varnish of civilisation and even cultivation, living at peace with the law,
maintaining a creditable appearance to all who are not under their power, yet
sufficient often to make the lives of all who are so, a torment and a burthen to
them ! It would be tiresome to repeat the commonplaces about the unfitness of
men in general for power, which, after the political discussions of centuries,
everyone knows by heart, were it not that hardly anyone thinks of applying these
maxims to the case in which above all others they are applicable, that of power,
not placed in the hands of a man here and there, but offered to every adult
male, down to the basest and most ferocious. It is not because a man is not
known to have broken any of the Ten Commandments, or because he maintains a
respectable character in his dealings with those whom he cannot compel to have
intercourse with him, or because he does not fly out into violent bursts of
ill-temper against those who are not obliged to bear with him, that it is
possible to surmise of what sort his conduct will be in the unrestraint of home.
Even the commonest men reserve the violent, the sulky, the undisguisedly selfish
side of their character for those who have no power to withstand it. The
relation of superiors to dependents is the nursery of these vices of character,
which, wherever else they exist, are an overflowing from that source. A man who
is morose or violent to his equals, is sure to be one who has lived among
inferiors, whom he could frighten or worry into submission. If the family in its
best forms is, as it is often said to be, a school of sympathy, tenderness, and
loving forgetfulness of self, it is still oftener, as respects its chief, a
school of wilfulness, overbearingness, unbounded selfish indulgence, and a
double-dyed and idealised selfishness, of which sacrifice itself is only a
particular form: the care for the wife and children being only care for them as
parts of the man's own interests and belongings, and their individual happiness
being immolated in every shape to his smallest preferences. What better is to be
looked for under the existing form of the institution? We know that the bad
propensities of human nature are only kept within bounds when they are allowed
no scope for their indulgence. We know that from impulse and habit, when not
from deliberate purpose, almost everyone to whom others yield, goes on
encroaching upon them, until a point is reached at which they are compelled to
resist. Such being the common tendency of human nature; the almost unlimited
power which present social institutions give to the man over at least one human
being-- the one with whom he resides, and whom he has always present -- this
power seeks out and evokes the latent germs of selfishness in the remotest
corners of his nature--fans its faintest sparks and smouldering embers--offers
to him a licence for the indulgence of those points of his original character
which in all other relations he would have found it necessary to repress and
conceal, and the repression of which would in time have become a second nature.
I know that there is another side to the question. I grant that the wife, if she
cannot effectually resist, can at least retaliate; she, too, can make the man's
life extremely uncomfortable, and by that power is able to carry many points
which she ought, and many which she ought not, to prevail in. But this
instrument of self-protection--which may be called the power of the scold, or
the shrewish sanction--has the fatal defect, that it avails most against the
least tyrannical superiors, and in favour of the least deserving dependents. It
is the weapon of irritable and self-willed women; of those who would make the
worst use of power if they themselves had it, and who generally turn this power
to a bad use. The amiable cannot use such an instrument, the high minded disdain
it. And on the other hand, the husbands against whom it is used most effectively
are the gentler and more inoffensive; those who cannot be induced, even by
provocation, to resort to any very harsh exercise of authority. The wife's power
of being disagreeable generally only establishes a counter-tyranny, and makes
victims in their turn chiefly of those husbands who are least inclined to be
tyrants.
What is it, then, which
really tempers the corrupting effects of the power, and makes it compatible with
such amount of good as we actually see? Mere feminine blandishments. though of
great effect in individual instances, have very little effect in modifying the
general tendencies of the situation; for their power only lasts while the woman
is young and attractive, often only while her charm is new, and not dimmed by
familiarity; and on many men they have not much influence at any time. The real
mitigating causes are, the personal affection which is the growth of time in so
far as the man's nature is susceptible of it and the woman's character
sufficiently congenial with his to excite it; their common interests as regards
the children, and their general community of interest as concerns third
persons(to which however there are very great limitations); the real importance
of the wife to his daily comforts and enjoyments, and the value he consequently
attaches to her on his personal account, which, in a man capable of feeling for
others, lays the foundation of caring for her on her own; and lastly, the
influence naturally acquired over almost all human beings by those near to their
persons (if not actually disagreeable to them): who, both by their direct
entreaties, and by the insensible contagion of their feelings and dispositions,
are often able, unless counteracted by some equally strong personal influence,
to obtain a degree of command over the conduct of the superior, altogether
excessive and unreasonable. Through these various means, the wife frequently
exercises even too much power over the man; she is able to affect his conduct in
things in which she may not be qualified to influence it for good--in which her
influence may be not only unenlightened, but employed on the morally wrong side;
and in which he would act better if left to his own prompting. But neither in
the affairs of families nor in those of states is power a compensation for the
loss of freedom. Her power often gives her what she has no right to, but does
not enable her to assert her own rights. A Sultan's favourite slave has slaves
under her, over whom she tyrannises; but the desirable thing would be that she
should neither have slaves nor be a slave. By entirely sinking her own existence
in her husband; by having no will (or persuading him that she has no will) but
his, in anything which regards their joint relation, and by making it the
business of her life to work upon his sentiments, a wife may gratify herself by
influencing, and very probably perverting, his conduct, in those of his external
relations which she has never qualified herself to judge of, or in which she is
herself wholly influenced by some personal or other partiality or prejudice.
Accordingly, as things now are, those who act most kindly to their wives, are
quite as often made worse, as better, by the wife's influence, in respect to all
interests extending beyond the family. She is taught that she has no business
with things out of that sphere; and accordingly she seldom has any honest and
conscientious opinion on them; and therefore hardly ever meddles with them for
any legitimate purpose, but generally for an interested one. She neither knows
nor cares which is the right side in politics, but she knows what will bring in
money or invitations, give her husband a title, her son a place, or her daughter
a good marriage.
But how, it will be asked,
can any society exist without government? In a family, as in a state, some one
person must be the ultimate ruler. Who shall decide when married people differ
in opinion? Both cannot have their way, yet a decision one way or the other must
be come to.
It is not true that in all
voluntary association between two people, one of them must be absolute master:
still less that the law must determine which of them it shall be. The most
frequent case of voluntary association, next to marriage, is partnership in
business: and it is not found or thought necessary to enact that in every
partnership, one partner shall have entire control over the concern, and the
others shall be bound to obey his orders. No one would enter into partnership on
terms which would subject him to the responsibilities of a principal, with only
the powers and privileges of a clerk or agent. If the law dealt with other
contracts as it does with marriage, it would ordain that one partner should
administer the common business as if it was his private concern; that the others
should have only delegated powers; and that this one should be designated by
some general presumption of law, for example as being the eldest. The law never
does this: nor does experience show it to be necessary that any theoretical
inequality of power should exist between the partners, or that the partnership
should have any other conditions than what they may themselves appoint by their
articles of agreement. Yet it might seem that the exclusive power might be
conceded with less danger to the rights and interests of the inferior, in the
case of partnership than in that of marriage, since he is free to cancel the
power by withdrawing from the connexion. The wife has no such power, and even if
she had, it is almost always desirable that she should try all measures before
resorting to it.
It is quite true that things
which have to be decided everyday, and cannot adjust themselves gradually, or
wait for a compromise, ought to depend on one will; one person must have their
sole control. But it does not follow that this should always be the same person.
The natural arrangement is a division of powers between the two; each being
absolute in the executive branch of their own department, and any change of
system and principle requiring the consent of both. The division neither can nor
should be pre-established by the law, since it must depend on individual
capacities and suitabilities. If the two persons chose, they might pre-appoint
it by the marriage contract, as pecuniary arrangements are now often
pre-appointed. There would seldom be any difficulty in deciding such things by
mutual consent, unless the marriage was one of those unhappy ones in which all
other things, as well as this, become subjects of bickering and dispute. The
division of rights would naturally follow the division of duties and functions;
and that is already made by consent, or at all events not by law, but by general
custom, modified and modifiable at the pleasure of the persons concerned.
The real practical decision
of affairs, to whichever may be given the legal authority, will greatly depend,
as it even now does, upon comparative qualifications. The mere fact that he is
usually the eldest, will in most cases give the preponderance to the man; at
least until they both attain a time of life at which the difference in their
years is of no importance. There will naturally also be a more potential voice
on the side, whichever it is, that brings the means of support. Inequality from
this source does not depend on the law of marriage, but on the general
conditions of human society, as now constituted. The influence of mental
superiority, either general or special, and of superior decision of character,
will necessarily tell for much. It always does so at present. And this fact
shows how little foundation there is for the apprehension that the powers and
responsibilities of partners in life (as of partners in business), cannot be
satisfactorily apportioned by agreement between themselves. They always are so
apportioned, except in cases in which the marriage institution is a failure.
Things never come to an issue of downright power on one side, and obedience on
the other, except where the connexion altogether has been a mistake, and it
would be a blessing to both parties to be relieved from it. Some may say that
the very thing by which an amicable settlement of differences becomes possible,
is the power of legal compulsion known to be in reserve; as people submit to an
arbitration because there is a court of law in the background, which they know
that they can be forced to obey. But to make the cases parallel, we must suppose
that the rule of the court of law was, not to try the cause, but to give
judgment always for the same side, suppose the defendant. If so, the amenability
to it would be a motive with the plaintiff to agree to almost any arbitration,
but it would be just the reverse with the defendant. The despotic power which
the law gives to the husband may be a reason to make the wife assent to any
compromise by which power is practically shared between the two, but it cannot
be the reason why the husband does. That there is always among decently
conducted people a practical compromise, though one of them at least is under no
physical or moral necessity of making it, shows that the natural motives which
lead to a voluntary adjustment of the united life of two persons in a manner
acceptable to both, do on the whole, excepting unfavourable cases, prevail. The
matter is certainly not improved by laying down as an ordinance of law, that the
superstructure of free government shall be raised upon a legal basis of
despotism on one side and subjection on the other, and that every concession
which the despot makes may, at his mere pleasure, and without any warning, be
recalled. Besides that no freedom is worth much when held on so precarious a
tenure, its conditions are not likely to be the most equitable when the law
throws so prodigious a weight into one scale; when the adjustment rests between
two persons one of whom is declared to be entitled to everything, the other not
only entitled to nothing except during the good pleasure of the first, but under
the strongest moral and religious obligation not to rebel under any excess of
oppression.
A pertinacious adversary,
pushed to extremities, may say, that husbands indeed are willing to be
reasonable, and to make fair concessions to their partners without being
compelled to it, but that wives are not: that if allowed any rights of their
own, they will acknowledge no rights at all in anyone else, and never will yield
in anything, unless they can be compelled, by the man's mere authority, to yield
in everything. This would have been said by many persons some generations ago,
when satires on women were in vogue, and men thought it a clever thing to insult
women for being what men made them. But it will be said by no one now who is
worth replying to. It is not the doctrine of the present day that women are less
susceptible of good feeling, and consideration for those with whom they are
united by the strongest ties, than men are. On the contrary, we are perpetually
told that women are better than men, by those who are totally opposed to
treating them as if they were as good; so that the saying has passed into a
piece of tiresome cant, intended to put a complimentary face upon an injury, and
resembling those celebrations of royal clemency which, according to Gulliver,
the king of Lilliput always prefixed to his most sanguinary decrees. If women
are better than men in anything, it surely is in individual self-sacrifice for
those of their own family. But I lay little stress on this, so long as they are
universally taught that they are born and created for self-sacrifice. I believe
that equality of rights would abate the exaggerated self-abnegation which is the
present artificial ideal of feminine character, and that a good woman would not
be more self-sacrificing than the best man: but on the other hand, men would be
much more unselfish and self-sacrificing than at present, because they would no
longer be taught to worship their own will as such a grand thing that it is
actually the law for another rational being. There is nothing which men so
easily learn as this self-worship: all privileged persons, and all privileged
classes, have had it. The more we descend in the scale of humanity, the intenser
it is; and most of all in those who are not, and can never expect to be, raised
above anyone except an unfortunate wife and children. The honourable exceptions
are proportionally fewer than in the case of almost any other human infirmity.
Philosophy and religion, instead of keeping it in check, are generally suborned
to defend it; and nothing controls it but that practical feeling of the equality
of human beings, which is the theory of Christianity, but which Christianity
will never practically teach, while it sanctions institutions grounded on an
arbitrary preference of one human being over another.
There are, no doubt, women,
as there are men, whom equality of consideration will not satisfy; with whom
there is no peace while any will or wish is regarded but their own. Such persons
are a proper subject for the law of divorce. They are only fit to live alone,
and no human beings ought to be compelled to associate their lives with them.
But the legal subordination tends to make such characters among women more,
rather than less, frequent. If the man exerts his whole power, the woman is of
course crushed: but if she is treated with indulgence, and permitted to assume
power, there is no rule to set limits to her encroachments. The law, not
determining her rights, but theoretically allowing her none at all, practically
declares that the measure of what she has a right to, is what she can contrive
to get.
The equality of married
persons before the law, is not only the sole mode in which that particular
relation can be made consistent with justice to both sides, and conducive to the
happiness of both, but it is the only means of rendering the daily life of
mankind, in any high sense, a school of moral cultivation. Though the truth may
not be felt or generally acknowledged for generations to come, the only school
of genuine moral sentiment is society between equals. The moral education of
mankind has hitherto emanated chiefly from the law of force, and is adapted
almost solely to the relations which force creates. In the less advanced states
of society, people hardly recognise any relation with their equals. To be an
equal is to be an enemy. Society, from its highest place to its lowest, is one
long chain, or rather ladder, where every individual is either above or below
his nearest neighbour, and wherever he does not command he must obey. Existing
moralities, accordingly, are mainly fitted to a relation of command and
obedience. Yet command and obedience are but unfortunate necessities of human
life: society in equality is its normal state. Already in modern life, and more
and more as it progressively improves, command and obedience become exceptional
facts in life, equal association its general rule. The morality of the first
ages rested on the obligation to submit to power; that of the ages next
following, on the right of the weak to the forbearance and protection of the
strong. How much longer is one form of society and life to content itself with
the morality made for another ? We have had the morality of submission, and the
morality of chivalry and generosity; the time is now come for the morality of
justice. Whenever, in former ages, any approach has been made to society in
equality, Justice has asserted its claims as the foundation of virtue. It was
thus in the free republics of antiquity. But even in the best of these, the
equals were limited to the free male citizens; slaves, women, and the
unenfranchised residents were under the law of force. The joint influence of
Roman civilisation and of Christianity obliterated these distinctions, and in
theory (if only partially in practice) declared the claims of the human being,
as such, to be paramount to those of sex, class, or social position. The
barriers which had begun to be levelled were raised again by the northern
conquests; and the whole of modern history consists of the slow process by which
they have since been wearing away. We are entering into an order of things in
which justice will again be the primary virtue; grounded as before on equal, but
now also on sympathetic association; having its root no longer in the instinct
of equals for self protection, but in a cultivated sympathy between them; and no
one being now left out, but an equal measure being extended to all. It is no
novelty that mankind do not distinctly foresee their own changes, and that their
sentiments are adapted to past, not to coming ages. To see the futurity of the
species has always been the privilege of the intellectual elite, or of those who
have learnt from them; to have the feelings of that futurity has been the
distinction, and usually the martyrdom, of a still rarer elite. Institutions,
books, education, society, all go on training human beings for the old, long
after the new has come; much more when it is only coming. But the true virtue of
human beings is fitness to live together as equals; claiming nothing for
themselves but what they as freely concede to everyone else; regarding command
of any kind as an exceptional necessity, and in all cases a temporary one; and
preferring, whenever possible, the society of those with whom leading and
following can be alternate and reciprocal. To these virtues, nothing in life as
at present constituted gives cultivation by exercise. The family is a school of
despotism, in which the virtues of despotism, but also its vices, are largely
nourished. Citizenship, in free countries, is partly a school of society in
equality; but citizenship fills only a small place in modern life, and does not
come near the daily habits or inmost sentiments. The family, justly constituted,
would be the real school of the virtues of freedom. It is sure to be a
sufficient one of everything else. It will always be a school of obedience for
the children, of command for the parents. What is needed is, that it should be a
school of sympathy in equality, of living together in love, without power on one
side or obedience on the other. This it ought to be between the parents. It
would then be an exercise of those virtues which each requires to fit them for
all other association, and a model to the children of the feelings and conduct
which their temporary training by means of obedience is designed to render
habitual, and therefore natural, to them. The moral training of mankind will
never be adapted to the conditions of the life for which all other human
progress is a preparation, until they practise in the family the same moral rule
which is adapted to the normal constitution of human society. Any sentiment of
freedom which can exist in a man whose nearest and dearest intimacies, are with
those of whom he is absolute master, is not the genuine or Christian love of
freedom, but, what the love of freedom generally was in the ancients and in the
middle ages---an intense feeling of the dignity and importance of his own
personality; making him disdain a yoke for himself, of which he has no
abhorrence whatever in the abstract, but which he is abundantly ready to impose
on others for his own interest or glorification.
I readily admit (and it is
the very foundation of my hopes) that numbers of married people even under the
present law (in the higher classes of England probably a great majority), live
in the spirit of a just law of equality. Laws never would be improved, if there
were not numerous persons whose moral sentiments are better than the existing
laws. Such persons ought to support the principles here advocated; of which the
only object is to make all other married couples similar to what these are now.
But persons even of considerable moral worth, unless they are also thinkers, are
very ready to believe that laws or practices, the evils of which they have not
personally experienced, do not produce any evils, but (if seeming to be
generally approved of) probably do good, and that it is wrong to object to them.
It would, however, be a great mistake in such married people to suppose, because
the legal conditions of the tie which unites them do not occur to their thoughts
once in a twelve month, and because they live and feel in all respects as if
they were legally equals, that the same is the case with all other married
couples, wherever the husband is not a notorious ruffian. To suppose this, would
be to show equal ignorance of human nature and of fact. The less fit a man is
for the possession of power--the less likely to be allowed to exercise it over
any person with that person's voluntary consent--the more does he hug himself in
the consciousness of the power the law gives him, exact its legal rights to the
utmost point which custom (the custom of men like himself) will tolerate, and
take pleasure in using the power, merely to enliven the agreeable sense of
possessing it. What is more; in the most naturally brutal and morally uneducated
part of the lower classes, the legal slavery of the woman, and something in the
merely physical subjection to their will as an instrument, causes them to feel a
sort of disrespect and contempt towards their own wife which they do not feel
towards any other woman, or any other human being, with whom they come in
contact; and which makes her seem to them an appropriate subject for any kind of
indignity. Let an acute observer of the signs of feeling, who has the requisite
opportunities, judge for himself whether this is not the case: and if he finds
that it is, let him not wonder at any amount of disgust and indignation that can
be felt against institutions which lead naturally to this depraved state of the
human mind.
We shall be told, perhaps,
that religion imposes the duty of obedience; as every established fact which is
too bad to admit of any other defence, is always presented to us as an
injunction of religion. The Church, it is very true, enjoins it in her
formularies, but it would be difficult to derive any such injunction from
Christianity. We are told that St. Paul said, "Wives, obey your
husbands": but he also said, "Slaves, obey your masters. " It was
not St. Paul's business, nor was it consistent with his object, the propagation
of Christianity, to incite anyone to rebellion against existing laws. The
Apostle's acceptance of all social institutions as he found them, is no more to
be construed as a disapproval of attempts to improve them at the proper time,
than his declaration, "The powers that be are ordained of God, " gives
his sanction to military despotism, and to that alone, as the Christian form of
political government, or commands passive obedience to it. To pretend that
Christianity was intended to stereotype existing forms of government and
society, and protect them against change, is to reduce it to the level of
Islamism or of Brahminism. It is precisely because Christianity has not done
this, that it has been the religion of the progressive portion of mankind, and
Islamism, Brahminism, etc. have been those of the stationary portions; or rather
(for there is no such thing as a really stationary society) of the declining
portions. There have been abundance of people, in all ages of Christianity, who
tried to make it something of the same kind; to convert us into a sort of
Christian Mussulmans, with the Bible for a Koran, prohibiting all improvement:
and great has been their power, and many have had to sacrifice their lives in
resisting them. But they have been resisted, and the resistance has made us what
we are, and will yet make us what we are to be.
After what has been said
respecting the obligation of obedience, it is almost superfluous to say anything
concerning the more special point included in the general one--a woman's right
to her own property; for I need not hope that this treatise can make any
impression upon those who need anything to convince them that a woman's
inheritance or gains ought to be as much her own after marriage as before. The
rule is simple: whatever would be the husband's or wife's if they were not
married, should be under their exclusive control during marriage; which need not
interfere with the power to tie up property by settlement, in order to preserve
it for children. Some people are sentimentally shocked at the idea of a separate
interest in money matters as inconsistent with the ideal fusion of two lives
into one. For my own part, I am one of the strongest supporters of community of
goods, when resulting from an entire unity of feeling in the owners, which makes
all things common between them. But I have no relish for a community of goods
resting on the doctrine, that what is mine is yours, but what is yours is not
mine; and I should prefer to decline entering into such a compact with anyone,
though I were myself the person to profit by it.
This particular injustice and
oppression to women, which is, to common apprehensions, more obvious than all
the rest, admits of remedy without interfering with any other mischiefs: and
there can belittle doubt that it will be one of the earliest remedied. Already,
in many of the new and several of the old States of the American Confederation,
provisions have been inserted even in the written Constitutions, securing to
women equality of rights in this respect: and thereby improving materially the
position, in the marriage relation, of those women at least who have property,
by leaving them one instrument of power which they have not signed away; and
preventing also the scandalous abuse of the marriage institution, which is
perpetrated when a man entraps a girl into marrying him without a settlement,
for the sole purpose of getting possession of her money. When the support of the
family depends, not on property, but on earnings, the common arrangement, by
which the man earns the income and the wife superintends the domestic
expenditure, seems to me in general the most suitable division of labour between
the two persons. If, in addition to the physical suffering of bearing children,
and the whole responsibility of their care and education in early years, the
wife undertakes the careful and economical application of the husband's earnings
to the general comfort of the family; she takes not only her fair share, but
usually the larger share, of the bodily and mental exertion required by their
joint existence. If she undertakes any additional portion, it seldom relieves
her from this, but only prevents her from performing it properly. The care which
she is herself disabled from taking of the children and the household, nobody
else takes; those of the children who do not die, grow up as they best can, and
the management of the household is likely to be so bad, as even in point of
economy to be a great drawback from the value of the wife's earnings. In another
wise just state of things, it is not, therefore, I think, a desirable custom,
that the wife should contribute by her labour to the income of the family. In an
unjust state of things, her doing so may be useful to her, by making her of more
value in the eyes of the man who is legally her master; but, on the other hand,
it enables him still farther to abuse his power, by forcing her to work, and
leaving the support of the family to her exertions, while he spends most of his
time in drinking and idleness. The power of earning is essential to the dignity
of a woman, if she has not independent property. But if marriage were an equal
contract, not implying the obligation of obedience; if the connexion were no
longer enforced to the oppression of those to whom it is purely a mischief, but
a separation, on just terms (I do not now speak of a divorce), could be obtained
by any woman who was morally entitled to it; and if she would then find all
honourable employments as freely open to her as to men; it would not be
necessary for her protection, that during marriage she should make this
particular use of her faculties. Like a man when he chooses a profession, so,
when a woman marries, it may in general be understood that she makes choice of
the management of a household, and the bringing up of a family, as the first
call upon her exertions, during as many years of her life as may be required for
the purpose; and that she renounces, not all other objects and occupations, but
all which are not consistent with the requirements of this. The actual exercise,
in a habitual or systematic manner, of outdoor occupations, or such as cannot be
carried on at home, would by this principle be practically interdicted to the
greater number of married women. But the utmost latitude ought to exist for the
adaptation of general rules to individual suitabilities; and there ought to be
nothing to prevent faculties exceptionally adapted to any other pursuit, from
obeying their vocation notwithstanding marriage: due provision being made for
supplying otherwise any falling-short which might become inevitable, in her full
performance of the ordinary functions of mistress of a family. These things, if
once opinion were rightly directed on the subject, might with perfect safety be
left to be regulated by opinion, without any interference of law.
CHAPTER III
On the other point which is involved in the just equality of women, their admissibility to all the functions and occupations hitherto retained as the monopoly of the stronger sex, I should anticipate no difficulty in convincing anyone who has gone with me on the subject of the equality of women in the family. I believe that their disabilities elsewhere are only clung to in order to maintain their subordination in domestic life; because the generality of the male sex cannot yet tolerate the idea of living with an equal. Were it not for-that, I think that almost everyone, in the existing state of opinion in politics and political economy, would admit the injustice of excluding half the human race from the greater number of lucrative occupations, and from almost all high social functions; ordaining from their birth either that they are not, and cannot by any possibility become, fit for employments which are legally open to the stupidest and basest of the other sex, or else that however fit they may be, those employments shall be interdicted to them, in order to be preserved for the exclusive benefit of males. In the last two centuries, when (which was seldom the case) any reason beyond the mere existence of the fact was thought to be required to justify the disabilities of women, people seldom assigned as a reason their inferior mental capacity; which, in times when there was a real trial of personal faculties (from which all women were not excluded) in the struggles of public life, no one really believed in. The reason given in those days was not women's unfitness, but the interest of society, by which was meant the interest of men: just as the raison d 'etat, meaning the convenience of the government, and the support of existing authority, was deemed a sufficient explanation and excuse for the most flagit